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A long time ago, there was an Emperor who told his horseman that if he could ride on his horse and cover as much land area as he likes, then the Emperor would give him the area of land he has covered.
Sure enough, the horseman quickly jumped onto his horse and rode as fast as possible to cover as much land area as he could. He kept on riding and riding, whipping the horse to go as fast as possible. When he was hungry or tired, he did not stop because he wanted to cover as much area as possible. Came to a point when he had covered a substantial area and he was exhausted and was dying. Then he asked himself, "Why did I push myself so hard to cover so much land area? Now I am dying and I only need a very small area to bury myself."

The above story is similar with the journey of our Life. We push very hard everyday to make more money, to gain power and recognition. . We neglect our health , time with our family and to appreciate the surrounding beauty and the hobbies we love..
One day when we look back, we will realize that we don't really need that much, but then we cannot turn back time for what we have missed.
Life is not about making money, acquiring power or recognition . Life is definitely not about work! Work is only necessary to keep us living so as to enjoy the beauty and pleasures of life. Life is a balance of Work , Family and Personal time.. You have to decide how you want to balance your Life. Define your priorities, realize what you are able to compromise but always let some of your decisions be based on your instincts. Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of Life, the whole aim of human existence.
So, take it easy, do what you want to do and appreciate nature. Life is fragile, Life is short. Do not take Life for granted. Live a balanced lifestyle and enjoy Life!
Watch your thoughts ; they become words.
Watch your words ; they become actions.
Watch your actions ; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character .
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny .

How to Reduce and Manage Job and Workplace Stress

In this difficult economy, you may find it harder than ever to cope with challenges on the job. Both the stress we take with us when we go to work and the stress that awaits us on the job are on the rise – and employers, managers, and workers all feel the added pressure. While some stress is a normal part of life, excessive stress interferes with your productivity and reduces your physical and emotional health, so it’s important to find ways to keep it under control. Fortunately, there is a lot that you can do to manage and reduce stress at work. Coping with work stress in today’s uncertain climate

For workers everywhere, the troubled economy may feel like an emotional roller coaster. “Layoffs” and “budget cuts” have become bywords in the workplace, and the result is increased fear, uncertainty, and higher levels of stress. Since job and workplace stress grow in times of economic crisis, it’s important to learn new and better ways of coping with the pressure. The ability to manage stress in the workplace can make the difference between success or failure on the job. Your emotions are contagious, and stress has an impact on the quality of your interactions with others. The better you are at managing your own stress, the more you’ll positively affect those around you and the less other people’s stress will negatively affect you.

You can learn how to manage job stress There are a variety of steps you can take to reduce both your overall stress levels and the stress you find on the job and in the workplace. These include:

• Taking responsibility for improving your physical and emotional well-being.

• Avoiding pitfalls by identifying knee jerk habits and negative attitudes that add to the stress you experience at work.

• Learning better communication skills to ease and improve your relationships with management and coworkers.

Warning signs of excessive stress at work

When people feel overwhelmed, they lose confidence and become irritable or withdrawn, making them less productive and effective and their work less rewarding. If the warning signs of work stress go unattended, they can lead to bigger problems. Beyond interfering with job performance and satisfaction, chronic or intense stress can also lead to physical and emotional health problems.

Signs and symptoms of excessive job and workplace stress

• Feeling anxious, irritable, or depressed

• Apathy, loss of interest in work.

• Problems sleeping

• Fatigue,

• Trouble concentrating

• Muscle tension orheadaches

• Stomach problems

• Social withdrawal

• Loss of sex drive

• Using alcohol or drugs to cope Common causes of excessive workplace stress

• Fear of layoffs

• Increased demands for overtime due to staff cutbacks

• Pressure to perform to meet rising expectations but with no increase in job satisfaction

• Pressure to work at optimum levels – all the time! Reducing job stress by taking care of yourself

When stress on the job is interfering with your ability to work, care for yourself, or manage your personal life, it’s time to take action. Start by paying attention to your physical and emotional health. When your own needs are taken care of, you’re stronger and more resilient to stress. The better you feel, the better equipped you’ll be to manage work stress without becoming overwhelmed.

Taking care of yourself doesn’t require a total lifestyle overhaul. Even small things can lift your mood, increase your energy, and make you feel like you’re back in the driver’s seat.

Take things one step at a time, and as you make more positive lifestyle choices, you’ll soon notice a noticeable difference in your stress level, both at home at work. Get moving Aerobic exercise –perspiring -is an effective anti-anxiety treatment lifting mood, increasing energy, sharpening focus and relaxing mind and body. For maximum stress relief, try to get at least 30 minutes of hear pounding activity on most days but activity can be broken up into two or three short segments. Make food choices that keep you going and make you feel good Eating small but frequent meals throughout the day maintains an even level of blood sugar in your body. Low blood sugar makes you feel anxious and irritable.

On the other hand, eating too much can make you lethargic. Get enough sleep Stress and worry can cause insomnia. But lack of sleep also leaves you vulnerable to stress. When you’re sleep deprived, your ability to handle stress is compromised. When you’re well-rested, it’s much easier to keep your emotional balance, a key factor in coping with job and workplace stress. Reducing job stress by prioritizing and organizing When job and workplace stress surrounds you, you can’t ignore it, but there are simple steps you can take to regain control over yourself and the situation. Your growing sense of self-control will also be perceived by others as the strength it is, leading to better relationships at work.

Here are some suggestions for reducing job stress by prioritizing and organizing your responsibilities

. Time management tips for reducing job stress

• Create a balanced schedule

. Analyze your schedule, responsibilities, and daily tasks

. All work and no play is a recipe for burnout

. Try to find a balance between work and family life, social activities and solitary pursuits, daily responsibilities and downtime.

• Don’t over-commit yourself. Avoid scheduling things back-to-back or trying to fit too much into one day

. All too often, we underestimate how long things will take

. If you’ve got too much on your plate, distinguish between the “shoulds” and the “musts.”

* Drop tasks that aren’t truly necessary to the bottom of the list or eliminate them entirely.

• Try to leave earlier in the morning. Even 10-15 minutes can make the difference between frantically rushing to your desk and having time to ease into your day

. Don’t add to your stress levels by running late.

• Plan regular breaks

. Make sure to take short breaks throughout the day to sit back and clear your mind

. Also try to get away from your desk for lunch

. Stepping away from work to briefly relax and recharge will help you be more, not less, productive.

* Task management tips for reducing job stress

• Prioritize tasks. Make a list of tasks you have to do, and tackle them in order of importance. Do the high-priority items first. If you have something particularly unpleasant to do, get it over with early. The rest of your day will be more pleasant as a result.

• Break projects into small steps. If a large project seems overwhelming, make a step-by-step plan. Focus on one manageable step at a time, rather than taking on everything at once.

• Delegate responsibility. You don’t have to do it all yourself, whether at home, school, or on the job. If other people can take care of the task, why not let them?

* Let go of the desire to control or oversee every little step.

*You’ll be letting go of unnecessary stress in the process.

*Reducing workplace stress by improving emotional intelligence Even if you’re in a job where the environment has grown increasingly stressful, you can retain a large measure of self-control and self-confidence by understanding and practicing emotional intelligence.

* Emotional intelligence is the ability to manage and use your emotions in positive and constructive ways.

*It’s about communicating with others in ways that draw people to you, overcome differences, repair wounded feelings, and defuse tension and stress.

Emotional intelligence in the workplace:

Emotional intelligence in the workplace has four major components:

• Self-awareness – The ability to recognize your emotions and their impact while using gut feelings to guide your decisions.

• Self-management – The ability to control your emotions and behavior and adapt to changing circumstances.

• Social awareness – The ability to sense, understand, and react to other’s emotions and feel comfortable socially.

• Relationship management – The ability to inspire, influence, and connect to others and manage conflict. Reducing stress in the workplace with emotional intelligence The more emotional intelligence you have, the more stress you can avoid in the workplace.

*Fortunately, emotional intelligence is not something we’re born with; it’s something we can learn and develop.

*The skill set that enables you to acquire these capabilities can be learned but requires the development of emotional and nonverbal ways of communicating that include:

• Learning to recognize your particular stress response and become familiar with sensual cues that can rapidly calm and energize you.

• Staying connected to your internal emotional experience so you can appropriately manage your own emotions. Knowing what you are feeling will not only add to your self confidence and improve your self control but enhance your understanding of others and help you build more satisfying relationships.

• Learning to recognize and effectively use the nonverbal cues that make up 95-98% of your communication process including eye contact, facial expression, tone of voice, posture , gesture and touch. Its not what you say but how you say it that impacts others –for better or worse.

• Developing the capacity to meet challenges with humor. There is no better stress buster than a hardy laugh and nothing reduces stress quicker in the workplace than mutually shared humor. But, if the laugh is at someone else’s expense, you may end up with more rather than less stress.

• Learning to navigate conflict by becoming a good listener and someone who can face conflict fearlessly with the expectation that differences resolved will strengthen the relationship. Reducing workplace stress by breaking bad habits As you learn to manage your job stress and improve your work relationships, you’ll have more control over your ability to think clearly and act appropriately.

* You will be able to break habits that add to your stress at work – and you’ll even be able to change negative ways of thinking about things that only add to your stress. Eliminate self-defeating behaviors Many of us make job stress worse with patterns of thought or behavior that keep us from relieving pressure on ourselves. If you can turn around these self-defeating habits, you’ll find employer-imposed stress easier to handle.

• Resist perfectionism. No project, situation, or decision is ever perfect, and you put undue stress on yourself by trying to do everything perfectly. When you set unrealistic goals for yourself or try to do too much, you’re setting yourself up to fall short. Do your best, and you’ll do fine.

• Clean up your act. If you’re always running late, set your clocks and watches fast and give yourself extra time. If your desk is a mess, file and throw away the clutter; just knowing where everything is saves time and cuts stress. Make to-do lists and cross off items as you accomplish them. Plan your day and stick to the schedule — you’ll feel less overwhelmed.

• Flip your negative thinking. If you see the downside of every situation and interaction, you’ll find yourself drained of energy and motivation. Try to think positively about your work, avoid negative-thinking co-workers, and pat yourself on the back about small accomplishments, even if no one else does. Find Ways to Dispel Stress • Get time away. If you feel stress building, take a break. Walk away from the situation. Take a stroll around the block, sit on a park bench, or spend a few minutes meditating. Exercise does wonders for the psyche. But even just finding a quiet place and listening to your iPod can reduce stress.

• Talk it out. Sometimes the best stress-reducer is simply sharing your stress with someone close to you. The act of talking it out – and getting support and empathy from someone else – is often an excellent way of blowing off steam and reducing stress.

• Cultivate allies at work. Just knowing you have one or more co-workers who are willing to assist you in times of stress will reduce your stress level. Just remember to reciprocate and help them when they are in need.

• Find humor in the situation. When you – or the people around you – start taking things too seriously, find a way to break through with laughter. Share a joke or funny story. What managers or employers can do to reduce stress at work It’s in a manager’s best interest to keep stress levels in the workplace to a minimum. Managers must act as positive role models, especially in times of high stress. All of the tips mentioned in this article are twice as important for managers to follow. If someone that we admire remains calm, it is much easier to remain calm ourselves – and vice versa! There are also organizational changes that managers and employers can make to reduce workplace stress. Improve communication

• Share information with employees to reduce uncertainty about their jobs and futures.

• Clearly define employees’ roles and responsibilities.

• Make communication friendly and efficient, not mean-spirited or petty. Consult your employees

• Give workers opportunities to participate in decisions that affect their jobs.

• Consult employees about scheduling and work rules.

• Be sure the workload is suitable to employees’ abilities and resources; avoid unrealistic deadlines.

• Show that individual workers are valued.Offer rewards and incentives

• Praise good work performance verbally and institutionally.

• Provide opportunities for career development.

• Promote an “entrepreneurial” work climate that gives employees more control over their work. Cultivate a friendly social climate

• Provide opportunities for social interaction among employees.

• Establish a zero-tolerance policy for harassment.

• Make management actions consistent with organizational values

Resource : RG Team

15 panduan lagi bagaimana isteri boleh memikat hati suami.

- Jika marah, tunggu sehingga sejuk. Bila sudah sejuk, beritahulah suami apa yang menganggu fikiran secara sopan. Jangan salahkan suami.

- Apabila suami bercakap, beri perhatian sepenuhnya. Jika boleh, hentikan apa sahaja tugas yang sedang dilakukan.

- Bila memesan barang kepada suami ke kedai, senaraikan di atas kertas. Jangan biarkan suami ke kedai dua kali.

- Tanya suami bila dia mahu berehat atau tidur.

- Peluk suami dengan kasih sayang sebanyak tujuh kali sehari.

- Telefon suami di tempat kerja jika perkara itu penting. Telefon dengan kerap jika suami suka.

- Jika suami perlu menjauhkan diri sekali sekala, tanya bila dia akan pulang.

- Jangan ganggu suami jika asyik melakukan sesuatu.

- Apabila suami marah, jangan menjawab. Tunduk dan diam walaupun kita tidak salah. Terangkan keadaan sebenar apabila suami sudah tenang.

- Apabila meminta bantuan suami, terangkan kepada suami kerja rumah yang memerlukan bantuannya, pilih kerja yang suami suka dan jangan suka mengarah. Gunakan perkataan yang sesuai dan lemah lembut.

- Pesan kepada suami supaya menelefon ke rumah jika dia bertugas di luar. Jangan pula melenting jika dia terlupa berbuat demikian, beritahu dia yang anda cuma risau.

- Sentiasa kemas, anggun dan menggunakan wangian sebelum tidur bersama.

- Sokong pendapat suami walaupun kadangkala pendapatnya berbeza dengan orang lain.

- Bila keluar berkereta, jangan ganggu suami yang memandu. Jangan menunjuk-nunjuk jalan selagi suami tidak meminta berbuat demikian. Jangan berleter apabila suami tersalah jalan, bersangka baik apabila tersesat jalan.

- Peluk dan belai suami sekali sekala tanpa impian seksual.


BOY : May I hold your hand?
GIRL : No thanks, it isn't heavy.

GIRL : Say you love me! Say you love me!
BOY : You love me...

GIRL : If we become engaged will you give me a ring??
BOY : Sure, what's your phone number??

GIRL : I think the poorest people are the happiest.
BOY : Then marry me and we'll be the happiest couple

GIRL : Darling, I want to dance like this forever.
BOY : Don't you ever want to improve??

BOY : I love you and I could die for you!
GIRL : How soon??

BOY : I would go to the end of the world for you!
GIRL : Yes, but would you stay there??

SHARON : Have you ever had a hot passionate, burning kiss??
TRACY : I did once. He'd forgotten to take the cigarette out of his mouth.

MAN : You remind me of the sea.
WOMAN : Because I'm wild, romantic and exciting?
MAN : NO, because you make me sick.

WIFE : You tell a man something, it goes in one ear and comes out of the other.
HUSBAND : You tell a woman something: It goes in both ears and comes out of the mouth.

MARY : John says I'm pretty. Andy says I'm ugly.What do u think,
PETER : A bit of both. I think you're pretty ugly.

1) Girlfriend : "...And are you sure you love me and no one else ?"
Boyfriend : "Dead Sure! I checked the whole list again yesterday".

2) Teacher : "Which is more important to us, the sun or the moon?"
Pupil : "The moon".
Teacher : "Why?"
Pupil : "The moon gives us light at night when we need it but the sun gives us light only in the day time when we don't need it".

3) Teacher : "What do you call a person who keeps on talking when people are no longer interested?"
Pupil : "A teacher".

4) Waiter : "Would you like your coffee black?"
Customer : "What other colors do you have?"

5) My father is so old that when he was in school, history was called current affairs.

6) Teacher : "Sam, you talk a lot !"
Sam : "It's a family tradition".
Teacher : "What do you mean?"
Sam : "Sir, my grandpa was a street hawker, my father is a teacher".
Teacher : "What about your mother?"
Sam : "She's a woman".

7) Tom : "How should I convey the news to my father that I've failed?"
David: "You just send a telegram: Result declared, past year's performance repeated".

8) Teacher : "Now, children, if I saw a man beating a donkey and stopped him, what virtue would I be showing?"
Student : "Brotherly love".

9) Teacher : "Now, Sam, tell me frankly do you say prayers before eating?"
Sam : "No sir, I don't have to, my mom is a good cook".

10) Patient : "What are the chances of my recovering doctor?"
Doctor : "One hundred percent. Medical records show that nine out of ten people die of the disease you have. Yours is the tenth case I've treated. The others all died".

11) Teacher : " Can anybody give an example of COINCIDENCE? "
One Student : "Sir, my Mother and Father got married on the same day and at the same time."

12) Teacher : " George Washington not only chopped down his father's Cherry tree, but also admitted doing it.
Now do you know why his father didn't punish him ?"
One Student: " Because George still had the axe in is hand."

Peringatan dari PDRM

Tips menghalang jenayah seperti yang diberi oleh Polis DiRaja Malaysia .

1. Jangan biarkan anak-anak tidur di ruang tamu seorang diri (Mereka mungkin menggunakan anak sebagai tebusan).

2. Kunci atau sorokkan semua pisau-pisau yang terdapat di dapur sebelum tidur (Kesemua kes kecurian di dapati pisau hilang dan menurut polis mereka akan mencari pisau dahulu sebelum mencuri bertujuan untuk melindungi diri mereka).

3. Sekiranya terdengar/terlihat paip air di luar rumah terbuka pada tengah malam (pukul 12 ke atas), jangan keluar rumah untuk menutup paip tersebut kerana ini adalah taktik terbaru mereka di mana mereka telah menunggu
diluar pintu rumah untuk masuk (Kes terbaru berlaku di Dungun dan PJ).

4. Beritahu anak-anak sekiranya hendak ke tandas (jika tandas jauh) di waktu tengah malam, kejutkan ibubapa untuk bersama mereka.

5. Jangan simpan barang-barang kemas di dalam almari baju (Cara lama...).

6. Bawa alarm kereta bersama semasa tidur, kalau terjaga tengah malam, cuba "on and off" kan balik untuk menakutkan pencuri (Menandakan kita sentiasa peka).

7.. Tekan butang merah alarm kereta anda jika anda mengesyaki pencuri sudah masuk ke dalam rumah.

8. Sekiranya terlihat orang asing yang mencurigakan di kawasan rumah anda, sila dapatkan plet no motor/kereta mereka (Selalunya mereka ini naik motor dan mereka ni biasanya berdua, setiap kali kita lalu depan
mereka, mereka akan menundukkan kepala).

9. Pesan dengan jiran, sekiranya ada sesiapa yang datang ke rumah anda dan mengaku saudara anda bertujuan untuk mengambil barang-barang, jangan benarkan, beri nombor telefon pejabat kepada jiran supaya mereka boleh memaklumkan pada anda.

10. Semasa tidur, pastikan handphone anda berada di sisi atau pastikan juga Cordless Phone anda berada di sisi anda ataupun sambungkan satu extension dalam kamar tidur anda. Ini memudahkan anda membuat
panggilan kecemasan sekiranya anda terasa kehadiran pencuri di dalam rumah anda.

11. Adakan senarai nombor telefon kecemasan 999 seperti polis, bomba , 991 atau sebagainya. Pastikan nombor-nombor ini disimpan dalam handphone anda. Kalau boleh, hafal nombor tersebut. Ini memudahkan
anda untuk membuat sebarang panggilan telefon.

12. Kalau berkemampuan, pasangkan alat pengesan kecurian di rumah atau automatik alarm.

13. Lampu porch & lampu belakang rumah sebaiknya jenis automatik ,ia akan menyala bila malam, baik semasa kita ada di rumah atau pergi makan angin.

14. Kalau perlu mengambil cuti panjang,sentiasa memberitahu jiran2 anda supaya mereka dapat membantu menyimpan surat dlm mail box. Peti surat yg penuh membantu pencuri menghidu ketiadaan tuan rumah.

15. Kalau kawasan anda kerap berlaku kecurian, buat permohonan rasmi dari Balai Polis berdekatan supaya ada anggota polis buat rondaan yang kerap di kawasan anda.

16. Kereta PROTON merupakan kenderaan yang paling mudah dicuri. Kalau kereta anda baru dibeli, sekurang-kurangnya anda perlu mengunci gear & stering sebelum tidur (Sebenarnya masih boleh dicuri, tetapi ia dapat membantu melambatkan pencuri).

17. Kalau ada anak-anak perempuan, sebaik-baiknya pintu biliknya dikunci dari dalam (Sebab ada pencuri yg mengambil kesempatan seksual) dan anda perlu ada kunci pendua sekiranya berlaku kebakaran.

18. Sekurang-kurangnya simpan kayu hoki atau baseball di bawah katil anda buat mempertahankan diri dari pencuri yang ganas.

19. Jangan letak kunci bawah pasu bunga/mail box/alang pintu/tepi tingkap bila keluar (Pencuri dah lama tau taktik ni...). Lebih selamat beri pada jiran yang kita kenal rapat.

20. Kalau menyewa di rumah baru, pastikan anda menukar padlock baru,kerana mungkin penyewa terdahulu
masih mempunyai kunci pendua.

21. Kurangkan pendedahan dan pergaulan anda dengan pekerja asing.

Sumber: Bukit Aman PDRM